To feel is to be human, and when you first get clean and sober, you’ll go through recovery. Everyone has fears in recovery, especially when they’re brand new to it. There’s nothing wrong with being afraid, but it can be uncomfortable.

 Doubt Or Fears About Recovery

You may also have doubts that help feed your fears in recovery. What are doubts, exactly?  Doubts are those little voices that haunt you when you’re feeling insecure or afraid. For people with a substance use disorder, doubt is familiar. It’s often because a person is used to being disappointed. They may have tried many things to get sober, only to relapse again and again.

The disease of addiction, also called substance use disorder, is insidious. It causes a person’s brain to think differently than a healthy brain. It can talk people into relapsing if they’re not using the tools

It’s okay to have doubts, and fear is natural too, but give yourself a chance. Take suggestions if you can, and listen closely to others in therapy and 12-step meetings.

Writing Down Your Doubt And Fears

Doubts and fears are close relatives of each other. For example, you may doubt that something like the 12 steps can work for you. Maybe you think the program didn’t work the first time you tried it, so it can’t work now. Perhaps you think you are endlessly broken and beyond repair.

Write down your doubts and fears. If you’re afraid of failing, write it down. What are you afraid of failing at? If you doubt that you can stay sober, write about that feeling.

As you write, you may discover that you have more fears than you realized. These are some good things to share with somebody you trust, whether it’s your sponsor or your sister. Write down all of your fears and share a few of them. (Share as many as you can, but if you’re not comfortable, then read the paper silently in your head. Or hand it to your trusted partner so they can read it.)

Once you have done this, set yourself free. Let those fears go. Take them to a safe space outdoors and set them on fire.

Getting Help for Addiction

If you or somebody you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol, we’re here to help! No matter what your fears are, you deserve a chance to get sober. We’ll help you get started in a safe and compassionate environment. Give us a call at 619-363-4767 to learn more about your options.

This holiday season was challenging for everyone in one way or another. Whether you stayed home or took risks to see family, you might be holding onto feelings from the past few months. Managing stress is an essential part of learning to live, adapt, and survive without alcohol or drugs.

New Year’s is the time of year we spend reflecting. For humans, the passage of time is significant. We love to mark birthdays on a calendar. You probably have a “sober birthday” date you’re keeping track of as well. 2020 and now 2021 are years that will probably be etched into our brains for years to come. Recent current events and unrest, as well as living in a pandemic, are remarkable stressors. And, as with many things, most of us are pretty powerless over what people outside ourselves. But we must learn to manage as life goes on.

The new year is also a time of reflection. It’s also a time we set goals and think about our hopes and dreams. Letting go of stress and learning to cope with it using healthy methods is an integral part of maintaining your recovery and sanity these days.

Managing Stress in a Healthy Way

There are no promises that anyone can make in 2021 other than it’s a new year. However, you can take time to manage and take care of your feelings and emotions. Managing stress is an important skill. For many people, managing life a day at a time is an important skill to master again and again. Nobody is perfect, and these skills take practice. Don’t beat yourself up if you feel overwhelmed. Take a deep breath, and make sure you’re doing the following:

  1. Maintaining your healthy habits. Sometimes it’s hard to take care of yourself, especially if you are prone to depression or loneliness. However, taking care of yourself will help you stay sober. Ensure you are eating well-rounded meals three times a day, getting exercise at least three times a week, taking any medications you have correctly, and getting enough sleep.
  2. Recharging regularly. That means do something that lifts your spirits and practicing self-care. Spen some time in the morning sipping coffee and listening to your favorite music. Go for a run in the park. Practice yoga or meditation. Do things that you feel help nurture your spirit.
  3. Eating healthy foods. You may feel pressured to have extreme weight loss goals around the New Year or stick to an unsustainable fitness plan. Many people in recovery from addiction also have disordered eating habits. Don't stress about your weight or obsess about your diet.  Instead of setting weight loss goals, focus on all-around wellness. Eat healthy, balanced meals, and try to reach for a banana instead of a candy bar. If you want to lose weight, consult a doctor or nutritionist to help you balance your meals. If you
  4. Getting exercise without being unrealistic. Exercise can be good for your pheremones, but it can also be an addiction. It’s hard to walk an hour a day, every day, or lift weights every day. Some days, you might have trouble doing it or may be busy. Just make time to get some exercise when you can, a few times a week.
  5. Be social. Even with COVID-19, social interaction is one of the most significant parts of our existence as humans. We need interaction. Many people are experiencing loneliness, but that doesn’t make you alone! Try going to meetings online and reaching out to your network. Ask them to set up chats online using Zoom or another software system.

So much of life today is putting one foot in front of the other. Remember, you are here to stay sober just for today. You are not alone, and you have a choice today that you didn’t when you were sober.

Take the time to practice the basics in recovery, and remember you are powerless over other people, places, and things.

If you need help, it is available, but you need to make sure you ask for it.

Getting Help

Do you or somebody you love have a problem with alcohol or drugs? Get sober in a safe, therapeutic environment. We can help you get sober and stay sober a day at a time in a peaceful and inspiring atmosphere.

We are open and accepting new patients! We take pains to keep everyone safe. Give us a call to learn more about our options. Call us at 619-363-4767.


Emotional regulation is a topic you’ll probably hear about if you are in drug treatment or recovery. The term describes skills that help you control your behavior, emotions, and attitude. Controlling your emotions, and minimizing their negative impacts, takes time and practice. In recovery, some tools can help you understand your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. By understanding, you can learn to change positively and focus on your longer-term goals.

Using Emotional Regulation Tools

Many people in the world don’t have emotional regulation skills, but they are easy to learn with practice. Without these skills, you can get “stuck” in bad patterns that don’t work. Reacting in anger when your feelings are hurt is a good example of this. Many people take out their anger and hurt on others, blowing up and upsetting other people in the process. If you have trouble with anger management, then learning these tools can help you be more positive in everyday life and even bring you some peace.

Self-Regulation Tools for Recovery

Not every tool will work for every person, but many people in recovery find that they are helped tremendously by using the tools they’re given. Many people in recovery have been working with poor coping skills for their whole life. Some people may feel angry all the time or have trouble coping with anxiety.

Self-regulation means that you can learn to calm yourself down and cope with your emotions in a more rational way.

Sometimes, it’s just hard to control your feelings. Recovery is a journey and growing is a part of that. If you’re not sure how to cope with unsettling emotions, ask others from your support meetings for suggestions. You’re not alone! Everyone has to deal with emotions every once in a while, but as you get more time in sobriety, you’ll find it gets easier.

Getting Help for Addiction

Do you or a loved one have a problem with addiction? Let us help you reclaim your life. We  offer a safe and compassionate environment to begin the recovery journey. We can help you detox and decide your next steps in an empathetic home-away-from-home. To learn more about our facilities please contact us at 619-363-4767.


When you were in active addiction, you probably took a lot of chances. Drugs and alcohol help dampen inhibitions and cause people to do some dangerous and not-so-smart things. It’s no surprise that when you get clean and sober, your sense of danger comes back. But you might find yourself feeling fear about things that didn’t scare you when you were getting high. After all, it might feel as if you’re trying new things all the time!

In recovery, avoiding the thing you're afraid of isn’t the answer. Everyone faces challenges, including new fears. The key to making it through things that scare you is not to let fear stand in the way. How can you start to be less scared? First, you must own the fear. Then, you should do the thing you’re afraid of, anyway.

What is Walking Through Fear?

Nobody is a coward because they’re afraid. However, fear can prevent growth and change; two of the most important aspects of recovery from addiction.

Why are you afraid, to begin with? Maybe you’ve been hurt or think relationships are dangerous, so you’re anxious about making new friends. Perhaps you’re worried that you’ll let people down, and then tell yourself that it’s better to “not try” instead. All of these are reasonable.

It’s okay to feel afraid. In fact, it’s important to acknowledge it. Once you’ve admitted it, it’s also essential to challenge fears as well.

How to Confront Fear Head-On

Do the thing you’re afraid of anyway. You can give yourself some coaching before you do it, but ultimately, the only way to confront fear is by walking through it.

You can prepare for the challenge by doing a few things. Ask your sponsor, family, or friends to help you with a pep talk. Ask them what they do when they’re scared. Share at meetings about it. Read success stories online or listen to inspirational music. Take time to meditate or practice mindfulness when you’re feeling afraid. Call somebody on the phone to talk about your fears. Go for a run or regularly walk to help keep your blood pressure calm.

Once you’ve confronted fear a few times, you’ll realize that while some parts of life are scary, others are less scary than you perceived. Walking through fear makes you less afraid. Make sure that you reward yourself – with ice cream, a good book, or a spa night – once you’ve confronted your fear. You’ll find yourself growing stronger and braver every day.

Fear of Getting Clean and Sober?

We’ve helped people from all walks of life forge a path to recovery. You deserve a better way of life! Learn more about getting clean and sober in a supportive, safe environment. Learn more about your treatment options by calling 619-363-4767.

Many people in recovery, especially from highly addictive drugs, find themselves feeling depressed from time to time. Getting clean doesn’t make life perfect, and as you adjust to life without the use of substances, you may discover new emotions pop up.

One reason that you might feel down when you’re first getting clean and sober, your body is still adjusting. Addiction changes the brain and creates chemical imbalances. These types of damage will heal over time. In the meantime, you’re left to cope with mood swings and sometimes headaches or other symptoms. Long-term recovery means healing your body, mind and spirit. For most, this means learning about self-care, learning to live by spiritual principles, and doing your best to be the person you want to be.

Coping with Depression

If you’re feeling blue, remember that this too shall pass. Here are a few great ways to kick those blue feelings to the curb:

  1. Take a walk every day. Regular exercise helps get your blood pumping and fills your brain with feel-good endorphins, the chemicals that help regulate your mood. Many people find that regular exercise helps curb stress as well as depressive symptoms. Science also shows that people who exercise regularly are more likely to have normal blood pressure and are less likely to acquire diabetes.
  2. Do something you truly enjoy. Often people just don’t take time for themselves when they first enter recovery. It’s okay, however, to take some time to do things you enjoy. Play with your dog, read a good book, or binge watch Netflix for a few hours every week.
  3. Practice self-care. Take the time to be good to yourself. Enjoy a long bath, do some yoga, or spend time in mindfulness meditations at least once a day. Self-care tasks are a great way to reward yourself and help yourself keep going on tough days.
  4. Share your feelings with others. If you’ve been feeling blue or depressed, let people in your recovery group and support system know what’s going on. They will probably have some experience to share with you.

Feeling down or blue is normal, but if you find yourself feeling depressed for weeks, or you feel like hurting yourself or others, it’s time to get help. Deppression is a real disease and many people discover they were self-medicating when they were drinking or using drugs. A qualified mental health professional, such as a psychiatrist or psychologist, can help diagnose clinical depression and help you make a plan for treating it.

Get Help for Addiction

Substance abuse disorder is a disease that needs treatment from qualified healthcare professionals. If you or a loved one is struggling with substance abuse, get help. There’s no better time to reclaim your life. Call us at 1-619-363-4767 to learn more about how we can help you transform your life.

In treatment and recovery, you’ll learn a lot about the science and psychology of a substance use disorder. People who are addicted to drugs experience physical cravings as well as psychological triggers that make them desire to use their drug of choice. Addiction is a disease that affects the way the brain works, causing a person to crave more of a drug and spend more time seeking it, as their life slowly starts to spiral out of control.

People who do things compulsively, such as using a drug despite adverse consequences, often have a trigger that makes the desire more strong. In recovery, you’ll find that there are social, environmental or emotional situations that remind you of using or that make you want to use right then and there. For example, television commercials that feature alcohol are usually a big trigger just because of their content; they promise if you drink, you’ll be more social and fun, and feel happier. Even though alcohol is a triggerthis probably isn’t the case, the commercial itself is a dangerous trigger that can cause some people to want to use alcohol or their drug of choice. You may also find that when you’re in a disagreement with a family member or coping with other stressful events, you have a desire to use again. These triggers can be scary and overwhelming, especially in early recovery.

Triggers can’t force you to get high or drunk, but they can be painful temptations, especially in early recovery. To cope with triggers, it’s important to be aware of them. When you know your triggers, you'll be able to pick up the phone and get the support you need before they get out of hand.

Common Triggers in Recovery



Coping with Triggers

Taking a walk, listening to music, or journaling can help you get in touch with your feelings and give you enough distraction to let the feeling pass.

If you’re feeling triggered and want to use, the best thing to do is to reach out to your support network. If you can’t reach anyone right away, consider going straight to a 12-step meeting where you can be around people who want to help you. Let other people know how you feel, and they will have plenty of wisdom to help you get through it.

Getting Help for Addiction

Are you or somebody you love in active addiction, and want to get help? Reach out to us, and we can let you know your options. We want to help you on your journey to recovery, and you’re never alone. All calls are 100% confidential: (619) 363-4767



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