When a person first gets sober, there is a whirlwind of activity. This is especially true if you go to detox or treatment, where much of your time is spent in therapy and groups. However, we’re all human and sometimes prone to drama. When you first get sober, everything may feel new. Your emotions may be more intense than usual. It may be easy to focus or obsess on a person, place, or thing that you’re unhappy about.
Letting Go Of Obsession
Small things – like arguments, bad traffic, or a bad day at work can loom over you if you let them. You can easily dwell on the bad if you choose to. Why is this? Unfortunately, your mind, which is used to the lifestyle of addiction, is also accustomed to creating distractions that help give you excuses to use your drug of choice.
Many people new to recovery find themselves obsessing over upsetting situations from their past. Sadness, regret, and even mourning your old lifestyle make take the form of obsession, which is a symptom of substance use disorder.
Give yourself time to focus on letting go each day, no matter what you’re upset about. Start and end your day with a “letting go” activity, such as journaling your feelings. You can also do this through meditation, prayer, or simply by taking a long walk and practicing mindfulness. All of these can help quiet your mind and focus on recovery.
Accepting the Help of Others
Accepting the help of others is an integral part of recovery. After all, look at where you ended up! But, unfortunately, your addiction didn’t do you any favors.
Now that you’re sober, you probably wonder what’s next. In recovery, you’ll have the opportunity to learn about your addiction. Treatment will help you through different types of therapy. And in the 12-step programs, you’ll find recovery peers who can help you stay sober. These are places you'll learn essential coping skills.
You will also need to find a sponsor who can help you work the 12 steps. Your sponsor is somebody you can trust with your secrets and who can share their experience, strength, and hope with you.
It can be humbling to accept help. But, just remember, asking for help is a sign of strength. You’ve got this! Calling, texting, and otherwise staying in touch with your recovery will help your focus immensely.
Learn More About Treatment Options
Asking for help is the first step in recovering from addiction. If you or somebody you love needs help, we’re here to help answer any questions you may have. So give us a call at 619-363-4767 to learn more about how we can help you get started on the path to recovery.
Addiction can make a person miserable, and detoxing can make you feel chaotic. Emotions run high when you’re first getting clean. Your body and brain take a while to adapt to life without your drug of choice, which can cause mood swings.
Adapting and changing will take time. Getting clean and sober is scary for many people; living life without drugs and alcohol can make you feel like you’re staring at a vast abyss of the unknown.
Why Your Attitude Matters
A lot of what you experience in early recovery will be hard. You’ll sometimes feel like you want to give up, but that feeling will pass.
The unknown can be scary, but you don’t have to live in fear. Some days will be a challenge, and other days will be a great adventure. Your job is to stay sober, one day at a time. A positive attitude can help you hold on to hope for another fifteen minutes or twenty-four hours.
How to Change Your Attitude
Many people in recovery will refer to an “attitude of gratitude” when they talk about the tough times in their life. Finding gratitude isn’t always straightforward. But an attitude that’s focused on the right things will help you tackle life on life’s terms.
Start by keeping a gratitude journal. At the end of the day, every day, review the best parts of your day. Did you get to eat your favorite food? Did somebody go out of their way to help you? Did you get to spend time with your children, a friend, or a pet? Did you wake up clean and sober?
Gratitude doesn’t have to be about big things. In recovery, you may find that the small things keep you going. Start focusing on these little things to help your recovery journey. You can have a “bad day” and still find things to be grateful for.
Hold Tight to Hope
In addition to gratitude, start looking for hope. When you were using drugs, life probably felt pretty hopeless. Sometimes you’ll be frustrated in recovery or feel down. Hope, however, is found in 12-step rooms no matter how upset or frustrated you feel. It just takes listening to others to find it.
Hope is something that many people cling to when they’re new to recovery. Where can you “find” hope? Start listening to the stories of “old-timers” and hear how much their lives have changed for the better. Listen, as well, to the newcomers who can tell you their pain and misery they’re going through as they try to get clean and sober. The fact that people are still trying and wanting recovery is an excellent reason to have hope.
Start every day with hope if you can, learn to meditate in the morning to center yourself before your daily activities. Hope, gratitude, and hard work are all a part of your early recovery, and they’ll help you grow and change throughout recovery.
Recovery is for everyone, regardless of what or how much you used. There’s hope and help awaiting your call! We want to help you find your path to reclaiming your life. Please get in touch at 619-363-4767 to learn more about our program and how we can help!